“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I –
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
― Robert Frost
Families, are an odd breed. They come in different shapes, sizes, and with opinions. Often, and more often then desired their opinions are what stings the most as the family appears to spare no sentiments in expressing their disappointment through verbal and or non verbal expressions. Their standpoints are often felt as forms of rejection. The type of rejection which penetrates so deeply into the soul that ones self efficacy begins to wane. Yearning for the sense of approval and love I find myself, yet again, living for them and losing self. Do I not have voice? Do my desires and dreams not have value? Do I not have a right to be happy or take chances to prosper or even fail? I have awaken. I have chosen the path less traveled.
What would a family be like if we embraced one other aside from preconceived perspectives? A family in where love is unconditionally offered and unreservedly received. Where each individual is respected inclusive of their choices or lifestyles. At times I have caught glimpses of that love only to have the impression erased by my loved ones discontented approval. In the past, I would allow their influence to shift my moods as I would strive to earn their love though deeds for I felt they had chosen to stop listening. As I practiced my state of awareness through meditation I began to loosen the grips of acceptance and began to allow myself to live outside the constraints of approval. I understanding for love to blossom it must be rooted from within the reservoir of the soul. Resentment, un-forgiveness, and prejudice drain the reservoir. I will keep my reservoir filled. I have chosen the path less traveled.
I had been traveling down the road through the woods on a path of which I had perceived to be my only option. The road seemed so familiar as I began my journey; senses of unhappiness, unauthentic, and the stifling air often had be gasping for air; yet, I trudged on to the contentment of the others. My life began to feel inanimate without passion. Oh, I was doing good job; yet, my inner self was fading. Not by chance I met sojourners on the road. At some undisclosed point to me they had begun to look for another road as their lives had become spiritless. Our lives converged and together we grew courageous to venture off the familiar path and down a different path that would lead us out of the woods. I have chosen the path less traveled.
As I left the familiar path onto the path less trodden I have encountered a vast wide world full of life and love. Today, what I do not allow others to do is mandate what road I shall travel. I may ask others for their input then assess the discoveries. I choose my path. Today, I can live in a world in which I can dance, dare to dream, I can have partner, and share my story. I have chosen the path less traveled.
In my Poly Anna new birth world, I choose to believe good things will happen despite growth opportunities or our troubled political state. I choose to find goodness in all things in the midst of ashes. Habits of self compassion, meditation, along with my mantra .”All things are as they should be” propel me forward to live my bests life it! So much to explore and experience! So much to embrace! I have chosen the road less traveled
A Walk in the Park
As I walk through Meridian Park in Northwest DC the sense of happiness fills my soul. The walk through the park is the highlight of my day. The sunny is shining just right and the temperature is in the mid 70’s; it’s a lovely Spring day. I hear the melody of the birds and listen to their distinct sounds. Despite my inability to recognize their messages they continue on with their soliloquies. I catch myself keeping in tempo to the drum beat I hear from afar. I glance around my environment and notice several couples walk holding while other pairs are encroaching upon one another’s personal space with a hug. They don’t seem to mind. There’s a group organizing themselves for a game of Frisbee. A little girl takes her Nana’s hand and they skip together while laughing.. A man lays sprawled out on the bench with a book laying on his chest, he couldn’t resist a siesta. A dog owner throws a tennis ball so that his Golden Retriever can retrieve. The dog returns with the ball. The owner pats the dogs head. The dog wags his tail in delight.
I stop to become part of the park experience. I sit on a bench that is being partly occupied by a man speaking Aramaic into his telephone. I hear people pass by speaking Spanish. The group playing Frisbee appear to be about the same age; yet, the group is comprised of individuals from various ethnic cultures. They laugh, fall down, and talk together. The mother and daughter pass by speaking, what I believe is Czech.
We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion. Max de Pree
A Happy Brain A Happy Self
We, as human beings have a Limbic and Cortex system. The cortex system is associated with the higher brain functions, as voluntary movement, coordination of sensory information, learning and memory, and the expression of individuality. The Limbic system informs our bodies to what is good or bad. When our Limbic system senses danger and or fear they system activates the survival instinct and are response will either be fight, flight or freeze; their by producing Cortisol. If experience is good then the feel good chemicals such as Endorphins , Oxycontin, Serotonin, and dopamine are produced..
The front of our brains has a special neurons called “mirror neurons” that exist to help us understand and empathize with one another. Dopamine is the reward-driven behavior and pleasure seeking chemical . Endorphin is the pain killer chemical released through exercise and laughter. Oxycontin is the building block in bonding, trust, and strong healthy bonds. Serotonin, the happy chemical, is released when you feel accomplished and or satisfied. Just a note: Vitim D produced by the sun is an easy way to get your body to produce Serotonin. The Park experience helped my brain produce happy brain chemicals.
People I observed at the park were existing together at the park without fear or threat. Happy Chemicals, unbeknownst to the majority of the individuals, were being produced and began to ooze and pour from their inner beings. How do I know, I heard their laughter, I saw it in their body language and the aliveness in their eyes.; I experienced and benefited from the process.
We are social beings, we need each other to thrive and survive.